"Love is more than a noun -- it is a verb; it is more than a feeling -- it is caring, sharing, helping, sacrificing."
~William Arthur Ward, author
When a couple exchanges their "I dos" in the wedding ceremony, what are they agreeing to?
I know. I know. The pastor has them repeat the vows after him.That's what they are "I do-ing."
But really ... the bride and groom are agreeing to so much more.
Not that you or I could tell them that. The minister never stops the ceremony and asks, "Does anyone want to chime in here? Does anyone want to tell this man and this woman some realities of married life? The good and the, um, not so good?"
Nope. Never gonna happen.
And it shouldn't.
My relationship with my husband is just that--mine. Your relationship with your spouse is yours alone. Sure, I could tell you my story. I could listen to yours. But the truth is, the best thing I could do for the bride and groom is to celebrate their choice to love one another. And then to encourage them to ensure their story is woven through with love. And forgiveness. And definitely with a sense of humor.
In Your Words: Any favorite memories from your wedding day? I've already told my daughter that something will go wrong on her wedding day--something always does. But we'll deal with it and it will become part of her story.
Labels: Beth K. Vogt, In Others' Words, quotes, What is love?